The journey of learning how to love yourself isn’t easy, especially in a world that teaches us the opposite. Still, going against the odds is all part of the adventure.
Learning to love yourself better is easily the most empowering, self-enriching, and body-honoring practice you can ever do.
And it’s completely doable. It just takes practice.
I decided to do a 10-day Self-Love Challenge to share the practices that I use and teach my clients. Although the contest is over, I would still LOVE to see you participate in the Self-Love Challenge on your own and tag me in it!
And for those who want to delve deeper into the radically transformative power of loving yourself, the fun doesn’t stop here! Read below for more info on my newest offer, a ladies-only self-love community!!
Those who participated in my 10-day Self-Love Challenge had the chance to win a 3-month 1:1 coaching package with yours truly! That’s over a $1,500 value! Although the prize has already been claimed, I’d still love to see you join in on the fun!
Below you’ll see the full challenge. Each day I give you an exercise to complete. Every day will be different and offer a new tool to add to your self-care rituals. Try them all on for size and see what you resonate with most!
To join this challenge, be sure to:
- Post a video of your practice or just write about your daily experience throughout the 10-day challenge
- Tag me on Facebook or on Instagram & use the hashtag #selflovechallenge to make sure I see your posts.
- Tag your friends to join you & engage with the growing global community of self-love warriors.
Day 1 of my Self-Love Challenge is all about honoring your body with mindful movement. In this case, a vinyasa yoga and pilates mat fusion sequence.
Your action/exercise for today is to follow the sequence below and feel it in your own body. Then post about the experience.
What did you feel? What did you notice about your body or your mind? How did you treat yourself during the flow? How do you feel differently afterward?
Take this sequence slow and breathe deeply. There is no rush or need to perform perfectly.
Honoring your body with a daily mindful movement practice builds your self-awareness, teaches you how to listen to your body, and helps you release unnecessary tension and stress. A strong and flexible body is a happy body that will reward you tenfold.
I use the word “mindful” because this practice is about being PRESENT and feeling your body from the inside out. It’s simply getting out of the chatting mind and into how the body is feeling. So, bring your mind’s attention to how your body feels throughout the exercise.
Notice where you feel sore and tight today. Take your time to tune in and listen to what your body is telling you. Notice when you are judging and/or criticizing your body or “performance”.
Remember, that no matter where you are on your movement journey, what matters is that you show up and practice. Do the best you can and let go of any inner criticism. Showing up to your mat is winning!
Take it slow. This video is sped up x 2. Be sure to repeat the other side so you are not lopsided. When you’re done, share your experience on your FB wall or on Instagram, or even in the comments below. Tag me in your post and remember to use the hashtag #selflovechallenge.
Day 2 of my Self-Love Challenge is focused on practicing meditation and affirming mantras to calm your mind and empower your heart.
Meditation is often one of the most difficult practices to commit to. Sitting and witnessing your own mind can feel terrifying & overwhelming at first. There may be a lot going on up there that is not easy to see, feel, or face.
One of the most powerful teachings meditation reveals is that you are NOT your mind. You are the ultimate observer of your mind.
And when you realize you are not your mind, you realize you have the power to consciously choose how you respond to the beliefs, programs, and stories that loop your mind on repeat.
Awareness of the chatter is the first step. Then comes the rewrite!
Meditation trains the brain to focus on the present moment. Not past stories and future projections.
One of the best ways to train the brain to focus on one thing at a time is to give it a phrase to repeat. An affirming phrase of course! One that empowers you to step into your greatness!
So, today’s exercise is to meditate for 10 minutes followed by repeating a mantra/affirming phrase of your choice.
Sit in a chair with a back to support your spine. Set a 10-minute timer. Put your bare feet flat on the floor and close your eyes.
All you have to “do” is follow the rhythm of your breath. Witness what your mind does. Notice the tangents it takes you on. The stories it brings up or repeats. Perhaps emotions come bubbling up. It’s all good. No judgment.
Every time you notice your mind wandering off of the focus of your breath, bring it right back. You may do this a thousand times. Don’t worry. This is normal and part of the practice.
When your alarm goes off, choose an affirming phrase like “I am limitless,” “I am enough,” or “I am capable.” Repeat this mantra out loud at least 30 times. When you notice your mind wandering off, come back to the mantra.
Day 3 of my Self-Love Challenge is all about setting better boundaries to support your limitless growth and potential.
- Do you constantly feel exhausted, stressed, overwhelmed, resentful, and taken advantage of by other people?
- Are you a people pleaser who has a hard time saying no to others?
- Do you feel guilt and shame about taking time to care for yourself?
If you felt like you could relate to any of these, it’s time to build much better boundaries to honor your space, time and energy.
Setting up and maintaining proper boundaries is required for you to grow in all the ways you desire most. Without a structural foundation to stand on, other people will push, pull, and mold you because you allow them to.
You teach others how to treat you based on how you treat yourself. If you are not honoring your own space, time, and energy, they won’t either.
Today’s exercise is to grab your journal and answer the following questions:
- What boundaries do I currently have that are serving my highest good?
- What boundaries do I try to maintain, but frequently fail to do so?
- When and how do I express my needs? Do I ask for help when I need it?
- When do I say yes when I really want to say no?
- What boundaries are required for me to truly thrive in my mind, body, and spirit?
Once you’ve gained clarity about these answers, it’s time to put them into ACTION with the people in your life.
Practicing saying no and expressing your truth with compassionate and clear communication with at least one person today.
This could be a simple conversation with your partner about how you will be going to the gym every day and will need his/her help to watch the kids while you take care of yourself.
Feel the uncomfortable emotions that may arise as you do this. Sit in the fire and let it burn away all that guilt and fear that is no longer serving you.
I look forward to hearing about your journey!
Day 4 of my Self-Love Challenge focuses on the power of holistic nutrition to radically transform and heal your body from the inside out.
Health is our greatest wealth, and nutrition is the key to feeling fantastic. You can work out at the gym for hours and meditate for days, but if you are not consciously choosing what you eat, you will not feel any real shift in your body.
The trillions of cells that make up our magical bodies require clean, nourishing, whole foods to perform at their best. Most people have no idea how good their body is designed to feel simply because nutrition has never been a priority.
If you are sick and tired of feeling sick & tired, NOW is the time to try a new approach that truly honors your body. Remember, food can be the greatest medicine or the slowest form of poison.
Part 1 of today’s exercise is to eat as clean as possible ALL day. Yep, you read that right. All day. This is a challenge after all ?
What does clean eating mean to me? It means cutting out foods that are heavily processed, sprayed with toxins, heavily salted, fried, genetically modified, or full of sugar. No alcohol either folks.
It means eating an abundance of organic veggies, greens, fruits, nuts, seeds, seaweeds, legumes, and sprouted grains. If you can’t get your hands on organics, do your best with the conventional produce near you.
Notice I didn’t mention animal products. Can you go one day without consuming anything that comes from an animal? It’s actually much easier than you think. I’ve been doing it for 11 years!
If you’re already a plant-based eater, this may be super easy for you, so I invite you to experiment with going raw!
Part 2 of this exercise is to answer the following questions in your journal:
- How do I disrespect my body with my food choices?
- Do I use food as a numbing/coping mechanism to stuff down my feelings? If so, what can I do instead when I feel stressed, sad, tired, bored, etc?
- Do I prioritize nutrition daily? If not, what are my excuses and how can I overcome them?
You got this my loves!
Day 5 of my Self-Love Challenge is what I call conscious flow journaling. Writing is one of the most powerful tools we have to manifest our ideas into concrete reality. It literally brings the ethereal into the material world.
You don’t have to be a “good” writer to experience growth and transformation from your own words. You never have to show these words to anyone if you choose.
Think of your journal as a sacred place where you go to learn more about yourself and create your dreams.
Today’s exercise is to write (with pen + paper) for 15 minutes straight with NO agenda. Just write what comes to you. Whatever it is, don’t judge it, perfect it, or stop it from flowing. Practice trusting what comes to mind and let your hand move.
Whatever is going on in your mind and heart will flow onto your paper with grace if you allow it.
At the end of the 15 minutes, read what you wrote, and answer the following questions:
- What do these words reveal about me? Did I learn something new about myself?
- Are there any lessons or bits of wisdom I can take away and use?
- What emotions did I experience?
- What am I most grateful for right now?
- If I could meet my 90-year-old self, what would they say to me right now?
Maintaining a daily journaling practice is a GAME CHANGER for self-inquiry and mastery. When you gift yourself permission to ask and answer deep questions, you realize many of the answers you seek are within you already.
Writing builds self-awareness and critical thinking skills that will help you gain the clarity you seek and initiate action towards your dreams. If you don’t have a journal or notebook, now is the time to pick one up!
Day 6 of my Self-Love Challenge emphasizes the importance of forgiveness and letting go of toxic people in your life.
When you forgive yourself and others your heart heals and opens.
Today’s exercise won’t be easy. Long lasting transformation never is. Stuck emotions will surface and tears will flow.
This release is necessary for you to heal old wounds and cut the energetic cords that tie you to your past so you can open and create space to receive what’s coming.
Part 1: Write a forgiveness letter to yourself. What do you want/need to forgive yourself for from your past and present? Get detailed here.
Part 2: Write down the names of who you want/need to forgive from your past or present. Write them each a forgiveness message in your journal. It doesn’t need to be long to be effective. A few paragraphs each is great. Specify exactly what you are